Incubus - Wish You Were Here

I dig my toes into the sand.
The ocean looks like a thousand diamonds strewn across a blue blanket.
I lean against the wind, pretend that i am weightless and in this moment i am happy.
I wish you were here
I wish you were here
I wish you were here
I wish you were here.
I lay my head onto the sand.
The sky resembles a backlit canopy with holes punched in it.
I'm counting ufo's.
I signal them with my lighter and in this moment i am happy, happy.
I wish you were here
I wish you were here
I wish you were here
I wish you were here.
The world's a roller coaster and I am not strapped in.
Maybe I should hold with care,but my hands are busy in the air.
I wish you were here
I wish you were here
I wish you were here
I wish you were here.

The Art and Psychology of Love Explained (Part-2)

Once a form has been reached in this way, division begins. This is a matter of “cutting the form up again, by relation to [sub-]forms, by relation to its natural joints”. As an example, Socrates cites the case of love itself:
“just as a single body naturally has its parts in pairs, with both members of each pair having the same name, and labeled respectively left and right, so the two speeches regarded madness as naturally a single form in us. The one (Socrates' reorganized version of Lysias' attack on love) cut off the part on the left side, then cutting it again, and not giving up until it had found among the parts a love which is, as we say, “left-handed,” and abused it with full justice, while the other speech (Socrates' own defense of love) led us to the parts of madness on the right-hand side, and discovering and exhibiting a love which shares the same name as the other, but is divine, it praised it as a cause of our greatest goods”.

Philosophy aims at true definitions and true stories based on them. But it also aims at persuasion, since the philosophical lover wants to persuade his boy to follow him on the path to the forms. Philosophy and rhetoric must thus go together, which means that rhetoric, too, must be developed as a technê. It must, first, distinguish and give definitions of the various kinds of souls and kinds of speeches, revealing their respective capacities and susceptibilities, and, second, “coordinate each kind of soul with the kind of speech appropriate to it, explaining why one kind of soul is necessarily convinced by one kind of speech, while another is not”.

Mastery of such a science, however, requires one further thing: “the student must observe these things as they are in real life, and actually being put into practice, and be able to follow them with keen perception”. It isn't enough, in other words, to know what kinds of speeches affect what kinds of soul, the philosophical rhetorician must also know that this man in front of him is of such and such a kind, and be able to talk in the kind of way that will prove convincing to him.

End...

The Art and Psychology of Love Explained (Part-1)

From the rich literary account of this ascent, we need to take away just one idea: souls have different psychological structures depending on which god they followed, since this sets an upper limit on how much of the forms they see, and so how much they can subsequently recollect. Since gaining access to forms nourishes and strengthens the rational element in the soul, this also helps determine their motivational structure: the stronger their reason is, the more likely it will be to succeed in controlling the other elements in the soul.

Followers of Zeus, for example, choose someone to love whose soul resembles their patron god. So they seek someone who is “naturally disposed to philosophy and leadership, and when they have found him and fall in love they do everything to make him philosophical”. Nonetheless, the falling itself involves a huge psychological upheaval. The black horse of appetite immediately urges towards sexual intercourse. The white horse “constrained then as always by shame” holds itself back. Eventually, however, the black horse forces both the charioteer and the white horse “to move towards the beloved and mention to him the delights of sex”. Eventually, “when the same thing happens to the evil horse many times, it allows the charioteer with his foresight to lead”. If this control of appetite by reason and spirit continues even when the boy has accepted his lover and embraces, kisses, and lies down with him and draws them to “a well-ordered life and to philosophy,” they are blessedly happy here on earth, and, if they live such a life for three successive incarnations, they re-grow their wings and re-join the entourage of their god.

The love that is divine madness is a good thing, therefore, especially when, “accompanied by philosophical discussions (erôta meta philosophôn logôn)”, it leads to the beautiful itself and the other forms, which are what we as most of all the rational element in our souls truly love and crave. The question is what makes a discussion philosophical? What makes it of the sort to be included in the true art of love that the philosopher who loves the beautiful itself practices? The answer now proposed is that it must be a technê or craft, and so must have the defining characteristics of one. As applied to love itself, for example, it must begin with a definition of love, and reach its conclusions by ordering its discussion in relation to it. And this definition, in turn, must be established by what Socrates refers to as collection and division.

Collection is a process of “perceiving together and bringing into one form items that are scattered in many places”. It is a process that we, unlike other animals, are able to engage in it, because our souls include a rational element that has prior acquaintance with forms: “a soul that never [prenatally] saw what is true cannot take a human shape, since a human being must understand what is said by relation to a form that is reached from many sense-perceptions being collected into one by reasoning”.

To be Continues...

Love and the Ascent to the Beautiful (Part-2)

In Plato's view, this means that they must be the concepts the true lover uses once he has seen the beautiful itself the concepts whose ontological correlates are forms. If they are not, they will be incoherent and the lover who employs them will find himself embroiled in a love story he does not understand, a love story whose incoherence the elenchus, or psychoanalysis, or just plain critical scrutiny will reveal. It is this incoherence, indeed, encountered at lower stages in the ascent, that leads the correct lover, under pressure from his rational desire for truth and consistency, and the pain of inconsistency, to climb to the next stage.

Like Diotima herself, we have been concentrating on what other things a lover is led to love by his love for his beloved boy. We have said nothing about the changes explorations in this enlarged erotic field effect in the desires and feelings of the lover himself. But these, too, help us to see what happens to his love for his boy in the course of his explorations. What hooks the lover to begin with is love for a particular body: “First, if the Leader leads aright, he should love one body and beget beautiful accounts there”.

instead of sexual intercourse, it leads to discussions about beauty and to accounts of it. Here the beauty at issue is, in the first instance, the boy who represents beauty itself to the lover. That is why, when the lover finally comes to see the beautiful itself, “beauty will no longer seem to you to be measured by gold or raiment or beautiful boys or youths, which now you look upon dumbstruck”. One effect of generating accounts of this beauty, however, is that the lover comes to see his beloved's beautiful body as one among many: if it is beautiful, so are any other bodies the accounts fit. And this initially cognitive discovery leads to a conative change: “Realizing this he is established as a lover of all beautiful bodies and relaxes this excessive preoccupation with one, thinking less of it and believing it to be a small matter”.

It is important in reading Diotima's description of this change that we see it as comparative and contrastive: the lover used to overvalue his beloved, now he values him appropriately. But valuing appropriately is still valuing. The boy is still included in the class of beautiful bodies the lover now loves. It is also important to notice that cognitive and conative change are going hand in hand. To recognize that his beloved is one among many, the lover's love for him has to change. And that means that psychological resources within the lover beyond his sexual responsiveness to physical beauty are coming into play. More of the lover is now involved in his love. Hence what his beloved might be thought to lose in exclusivity he gains in richness and no doubt in endurance and reliability of response. When his physical bloom fades, he will now still be loved.

But love that is to escape frustration cannot stop with bodies. The attempt to formulate an account of love free from puzzles and immune to elenctic refutation must lead on from beautiful bodies to beautiful souls, and so to the beautiful laws and practices that will improve souls and make young men better. Again this cognitive achievement is matched by a conative one. When the lover sees that all these beautiful things are somehow akin in the beauty, he comes to think that “bodily beauty is a small thing”, and so, as before, becomes less obsessed with it.

End...

Love and the Ascent to the Beautiful (Part-1)

Socrates is adept at some parts of the art of love but cannot take his beloveds all the way. So he is clearly in need of further instruction in the art of love. In the Symposium, this is provided to him by Diotima, whom he describes as “the one who taught me the art of love”. And what she teaches him, in a nutshell, is Platonism. What the elenchus needs if it is to satisfy rather than frustrate love, in other words, is the theory of Platonic Forms. What Socrates needs and so ought to love is Plato! The story of Platonic love is, one might say, the story of the Platonizing of Socrates.

If what Socrates learned from Diotima was about all love, however, it would be refuted by the very fact of Alcibiades, whose love for Socrates has not led him to love the beautiful itself. It would be equally refuted, indeed, by all the other symposiasts, none of whom has been led there by his love. But Diotima's love story is not so general. It is self advertised as a story about “loving boys correctly (to orthôs paiderastein)” as a lesson in “the correct way to go or to be led by another to the art of love”. To be sure, it doesn't itself explicitly provide us with a story about how Erôs can act as a force which retards development. But that isn't because Plato thought Erôs could not act as such a force consider Alcibiades. Rather, it is because Diotima's story is a story about successful or correct love.

If the lover's accounts are to achieve this goal, however, they mustn't be the product of distorting fantasy, as Nietzsche thinks so many of our moral concepts are and as some feminists think our concept of romantic love itself is. What is intended to insure that they will not is their openness to reality an openness guaranteed by the fact that in the course of his ascent the lover must study the beauty of ways of life and laws and the beauty of the sciences. What he gains from these studies are the conceptual resources needed to see the world, including the human world, aright to gain knowledge of it. This is not the project an analysand takes up in psycho analysis. Nor is it the one that we less formally undertake when we reflect on our own love stories in hopes of understanding them (often a project provoked alas by an unhappy ending). It is instead the project of philosophy, as Plato conceives of it. That is why it culminates in “the birth of many gloriously beautiful accounts and theories in unstinting love of wisdom (philosophia)”. Yet the grander project intersects with the analysand's project and with ours in an interesting way. The terms or concepts we use to tell our love stories must themselves be coherent if the stories we use them to tell are themselves to be coherently livable.

To be continues....

Writing About Love

At the end of the Symposium, Alcibiades has gone off, presumably with the throng of Bacchic revelers, who burst into his life as representatives of his overpowering love for the approval and flattery of the crowd. Socrates, Aristophanes, and Agathon are left behind discussing tragedy and comedy: “the main point was that Socrates was trying to prove to them that the same man knows (epistasthai) how to write both comedy and tragedy, that someone who is by craft (technê) a tragic poet is a comic poet too”.

The key words here, as we learn in the Ion, are epistasthai and technê. Ordinary poets cannot write both comedy and tragedy, because they do not write out of knowledge and craft (technê) but out of divine inspiration. If they did write out of craft and knowledge, if they were craftsmen poets, they would be able to write both comedy and tragedy, because opposites are always studied by the same craft. Thus the comedic craft and the tragic craft would have to be one and the same; just as one and the same craft, medicine, deals with both sickness and health.

Socrates tells us what a craftsman poet would be able to write, he does not tell us what he would write. Other Platonic spokesmen are somewhat more forthcoming. “We ourselves are poets,” the Athenian Stranger tells us in the Laws, “who have to the best of our ability created a tragedy that is the finest and the best; at any rate, our entire constitution is constructed as an imitation of the finest and best way of life — the very thing which we claim is the truest tragedy”. Earlier in the same discussion, the Stranger is equally explicit that this same constitution, though not a comedy, does nonetheless embody comedic knowledge:

“Someone who is going to gain practical wisdom can't learn serious matters without learning ridiculous ones, or anything else, for that matter, without its opposite. But if we intend to acquire virtue, even on a small scale, we can't be serious and comic too, and this is precisely why we must learn to recognize what is ridiculous, to avoid being trapped by our ignorance of it into doing or saying something ridiculous, when we don't have to”.

Finally, Alcibiades arrives with significantly enough a flute-girl. And though she does not play, her arrival inaugurates the further decline of the symposium into something even more like the kind of symposium reviled in the Protagoras as “a symposium of common, vulgar fellows… who, unable to entertain one another with their own conversation, put up the price of flute-girls, and pay large sums to hear the sound of the flute instead of their own talk”. This is the element of satyr-play in the Symposium satyr imagery is frequent in Alcibiades' speech.

The idea is the one mentioned earlier. Some love stories the good ones are tragedies (in the special sense of the term introduced in the Laws), they involve the kind of love found in the best kind of life, a life that comes as close as possible to the divine one in which we achieve happiness by having good things be ours forever. Other love stories are comedies: they involve a lesser kind of love. Others still are satyr plays: genital farces. But the true story of love, the story that is Plato's Symposium itself, is the story of all these stories. In the Symposium, it takes the form appropriate to its genre and audience. But in the Phaedrus, we learn of the longer more technical road it might take in the future, when armed with a scientific psychology and rhetoric it becomes a matter for experts.

Loving Socrates

At the beginning of the Symposium, an unidentified man wants to hear what was said about love by Socrates and the others at Agathon's house. He has heard a garbled account. Now he wants Apollodorus to tell him what was really said. But Apollodorus wasn't there either. He got his account of the proceedings second-hand from Aristodemus. All these men who ought to be chasing boys are presented as so besotted with Socrates and his conversations that one of them Apollodorus makes it his business to know exactly what Socrates does and says each day , while another Aristodemus is so far gone in his passion for Socrates that he walks barefoot like his beloved.

One reason for this complex set-up is to let us see the inverting impact of Socrates and Athenian paiderastic norms. Another is more subtle. Alcibiades' love for Socrates focuses on the beautiful figures of virtue which he thinks he sees lying beneath those “words as coarse as the hides worn by the most vulgar satyrs,” which are the analog for him of Socrates' ugly, satyr-like body. Aristodemus' love for Socrates, by contrast, seems to focus on his coarse exterior, so that Aristodemus himself is a sort of inverted Alcibiades, whose very name associates him with Pausanias' body-centered goddess of love, Pandêmos. Loving Socrates, we may infer, is a complex business, since just what someone loves in loving him is tied to that person's peculiar desires, and the limits they impose on how like Socrates he can become.

Despite his reservations, Aristodemus agrees to accompany Socrates but with an important proviso: “See what defense you're going to make (apologêsê) for bringing me along, because I won't admit I came uninvited, I'll say you brought me!”. It is this proviso that initiates the next mystifying episode. It begins when Socrates replies by under-quoting Homer: “We'll take counsel about what to say ‘when two go together along the way”. What he leaves out is what happens when two do go together, namely, “one of them knows before the other”. The elision of this phrase is matched by an elision of Plato's own. For what happened on the road to Agathon's is that “Socrates began to think about something, lost himself in thought, and kept lagging behind”.

Later in the Symposium, the match is reestablished by the close parallels between the preamble to Socrates' speech in praise of Erôs and that to his speech before the jury. There he is “amazed (ethaumasa)” by what his accusers say; here Agathon's speech is “amazing (thaumasta)”. There he isn't a clever (deinos) speaker, unless cleverness consists in speaking the truth. Here he isn't clever in the art of love unless encomia to Erôs involve telling the truth about it. There “what the jurors will hear will be spoken extemporaneously (epituchousin) in whatever words come to mind”; here the symposiasts will “hear the truth spoken about Erôs in such words and arrangements as occur to me extemporaneously (tuchê epelthousa)”.

The result of Socrates' losing his way in thought and ending up stymied in Agathon's neighbor's porch is that Aristodemus, like a proper Socratic paraclete, arrives at Agathon's quite a bit before Socrates. When Socrates finally does arrive in propria person, Agathon says: “Socrates, come lie down next to me. Who knows, if I touch you, I may catch a bit of the wisdom that came to you under my neighbor's porch”.

Socrates replies with an obviously sexual simile, which acknowledges, so as later once again to invert, paiderastic norms: “If only wisdom were like water which always flows from a full cup into an empty one when we connect them with a piece of yarn. If wisdom were that way too, I value the place beside you very much indeed; for I think I will be filled from you with wisdom of great beauty”. What actually happens, however, is the very reverse. Socrates responds to Agathon's fancy speech about love with an elenchus, so that his emptiness, his lack of knowledge, flows into Agathon, destroying the wisdom of great beauty that had won his tragedy a first prize the day before.

Japanese Tea

There are all sorts of Japanese teas for all sorts of tastes. Each variety has its own unique flavor and aroma. Tea is also reputed to have health benefits. Some teas are said to work like medicine. Others are supposed to be good for dieting. Science has not been able to verify most of these claims, but drinkers stand by their tea.

Buddhist monks first brought tea to Japan from China in the 8th century. For several centuries, only Buddhist monks drank tea. It was supposed to clear the mind. These same monks came to develop the tea ceremony. The tea in the tea ceremony is made from tea leaves ground into a fine powder; the whole mixture is drunk, grounds and all. Outside of the tea ceremony, most people add hot water to tea leaves, then strain the leaves out of the tea.

Tea is popular as a gift, especially for the big gift exchange seasons twice a year (one in summer [o-chuugen] and one in December [o-seibo]). Japanese give tea as a sign of appreciation for employers, business clients, neighbors, or other valued people in their lives.

"O-cha" in Japan means "green tea." The difference between black tea, oolong tea (Chinese tea), and green tea is not the difference in the kinds of plants from which they are made, but in how they are made.

All of these teas are derived from the buds or leaves of the same type of tea plant, but fresh leaves are steamed quickly after picking to make green tea, while the leaves for black tea are 100% fermented before drying.

It is said that the use of tea originated in China. During the Nara period (710-794), Japanese Buddhist monks visited China and brought tea seeds back to Japan. Until the 16th century, it was used in its powdered form known as matcha. At that time, the method for making sencha (the most common kind of tea) was invented. In the late 16th century, Sen-no Rikyuu perfected the formal tea ceremony and the consumption of tea was restricted to the aristocracy. Green tea only became available to the general public after the beginning of the 20th century, when mass production techniques were introduced.

Some recent research suggests tea has possible cancer-preventive qualities. Some experts attribute the low incidents of certain types of cancer amongst the Japanese to their large daily consumption of green tea.

Types Of Green Tea

Sencha: This is the most common green tea in Japan (80% of the Japanese market). It is composed of deep green leaves, and when brewed with hot water it creates a light green, flavorful tea

• Matcha: Made when the most desirable new green tea leaves are pounded into powder, matcha is used in the tea ceremony.

• Bancha: This is made from older leaves left after the tender leaves are used for the making of sencha.

• Hoojicha: hoojicha is made from the same leaves used for sencha and bancha, but they are roasted until they turn brown. It is a clear brown tea with a strong roasted flavor.

Genmaicha: genmaicha is combined with bancha and roasted brown rice.

Other Kinds Of Tea Not Actually Made With Tea Leaves

• Mugicha: This is made of roasted barley or rye, and served cold in the summer.
• Kobucha: Seaweed flavored tea. It is sold as a powdered mix.

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Socrates and Athenian Paiderastia

As a man who loves boys in an idiosyncratic, because elenctic, way, Socrates is placed in potential conflict with the norms of a peculiar Athenian social institution, that of paiderastia the socially regulated intercourse between an older Athenian male (erastês) and a teenage boy (erômenos, pais), through which the latter was supposed to learn virtue. The effect on Plato is palpable in his works, turning very many of them into defenses, not always uncritical of Socrates, and of what he represented for the young men he encountered. His account in the Symposium of one such relationship that with the brilliant and beautiful Alcibiades is an illuminating case in point.
Alcibiades was so in love with Socrates “it was obvious,” the Symposium tells us that when asked to speak of love, he speaks of his beloved. No general theories of love for him, just the vividly remembered story of the times he spent with a man so extraordinary there has never been anyone like him, a man so powerfully erotic he turned the conventional world of love upside down by “seeming to be a lover (erastês) while really establishing himself as a beloved boy (pais) instead”.

Love stories, however inadequate as theories of love, are nonetheless stories, logoi, items that admit of analysis. But because they are manifestations of our loves, not mere cool bits of theorizing, we our deepest feelings are invested in them. The love that expressed itself in his love story meets then another love: his rational desire for consistency and intelligibility; his desire to be able to tell and live a coherent story; his desire to put it the other way around not to be endlessly frustrated and conflicted, because he is repetitively trying to live out an incoherent love story.

Alcibiades' famous failed attempt to seduce Socrates shows that this is so in his case too. For Alcibiades doesn't try to win Socrates' love by undertaking the difficult task of selftransformation required to become a more virtuous, and so more truly beautiful and lovable, person. Instead, he takes the easy, familiar path of offering the physical attractions he already has the ones that have earned him the approval of the crowd. When these fail him, it is to the crowd (in the form of the Bacchic revelers we meet at the end of the Symposium) he will regressively return, having never really succeeded in turning away.

The origins of this fantasy though, no doubt, partly personal are predominantly social. It is the complex ideology of Athenian paiderasteia that has shaped Alcibiades' own desires. For, according to it, love is really “two things”: good Uranian love, whose object is the soul, and whose aim is to instill virtue in the younger male; and bad Pandemotic love, whose object is the body and whose aim is sexual pleasure for the older lover.

A major cost of preserving this split, however, is that the older male's body-focused, sexual intercourse must itself be masked as intercourse of a more respectable sort. Alcibiades' later re-description of Socrates' inner figures shows him succumbing to the double-vision that inevitably results:
“If you were to listen to his arguments, at first they'd strike you as totally ridiculous; they're clothed in words as coarse as the hides worn by the most vulgar satyrs. He's always going on about pack asses, or blacksmiths, or cobblers, or tanners… But if the arguments are opened and one sees them from the inside, he will find first that they are the only arguments with any sense in them, and next that they contain within themselves utterly divine and multitudinous figures of virtue (agalmat' aretês)”.

For Alcibiades, then, Socrates' body is identical to his words; the virtues that are in him are in them; talking philosophy is having sexual intercourse, and vice versa.

Japanese Tea Ceremony

The tea ceremony is one of the most hallowed traditions in Japan. One doesn't just sit down and drink, there is an intricate ritual to be observed when partaking in the ceremony. Students receive instruction on this in their school's etiquette education room, shown here.

The tea used in the tea ceremony is created from a fine powder of tea leaves. The first tea ceremonies were held in the 12th century, and since then several different forms of the ceremony have evolved. However, in all formal tea ceremonies, attendants are expected to wear a kimono. This is because of the formal origins of the ceremony (when they were held in palaces). One could think of this level of formality as being similar to that observed if you were invited to the White House for dinner.

Boyzone – Everyday I Love You

I don't know, but I believe

That some things are meant to be

And that you'll make a better me, Everyday I love you

I never thought that dreams came true

But you showed me that they do

You know that I learn something new, Everyday I love you

'Cos I believe that destiny.

Is out of our control (don't you know that I do)

And you'll never live until you love, With all your heart and soul.

It's a touch when I feel bad, It's a smile when I get mad

All the little things I am, Everyday I love you

Everyday I love you boy, Everyday I love you

'Cos I believe that destiny..

Is out of our control (don't you know that I do)

And you'll never live until you love, With all your heart and soul...

If I asked would you say yes? Together we're the very best

I know that I am truly blessed, Everyday I love you

And I'll give you my best, Everyday I love you

TRIP TO LODGE NAGANO, JAPAN

Nozawa Onsen Village, Nagano, The Alps Japan

The Mountains are calling

Nestled in the Japan Alps is a magical place steeped in culture and with some terrific skiing and boarding. Nagano was home to the Winter Olympics in 1998. Nozawa Onsen is a very traditional town with beautiful hot springs, friendly locals, and terrific snow.

• The Lodge is only 100m to the slopes and short stroll to town
• Relaxed and comfortable atmosphere
• In the centre of Japans main Island Honshu easy access from anywhere
• You can fly direct to Tokyo or Nagoya and there is a shuttle bus direct to the Lodge
• English and Japanese Speaking Staff to help with all your needs
• Unique and beautiful place with breathtaking nature and culture
• Nozawa Village is also famous for its hot springs, there are many nearby
• Lots of terrain, with Gondolas, high speed quads, and long runs – very few lift

More than just a ski trip

Experience the culture, food, famous hot springs and unique Japanese Charm in Nozawa Onsen Village, Nagano, Japan.Nozawa Onsen is like a true Shangra La. From the Mountain Peaks on a clear day you can see the Sun Set into the Ocean. The town has some amazing traditional architecture with Temples, Hot Spring Houses, and traditional Inns.It is one of the richest sources of Hot Springs in Japan and there is a myriad of water flowing from the mountains and springs throughout the village leaving its soothing sound as it passes.Please have a look at the attached maps to see the position of Nozawa Onsen in Japan and also the great position of Lodge Nagano in the Village. Lots of great places to eat and check out nearby.

How To Getting there

Plane:

From Australia it is an 8-hour Flight, Hong Kong 4 hours, Singapore 6 Hours Europe 15 hours to the nearest International Airports of Tokyo or Nagoya

Shuttle Bus:

There is a shuttle bus service from both Tokyo and Nagoya Airports that will pick you up at the airport and drop you at our door approximately 5 hours. Only 11500 yen per person 8000 yen if under 12 years old

Train:

From anywhere in Japan you can get the Bullet Train or Express to Nagano City then change to the Iiyama Line to Togari Nozawa Onsen Station. A bus usually meets the train and is a short ride to the Village of Nozawa Onsen. If staying at Lodge Nagano get off at Bus Stop Number 5 called Shinden, If staying at Villa Nozawa get off at Bus stop Number 6 Nakao.Then it is a few hundred meters up hill towards the slopes to the Lodges. Taxis are also available from the station to the door and probably the easiest way

Bus:

There are a number of overnight and day buses from most major Japanese cities from about 4000 yen per person.

Car:

Nearest Expressway is Joshinetsu and nearest national road is Route 117

13 Signs of Burnout and How To Help You Avoid It

By Henry Neils

In some ways it was a typical breakfast meeting. The waitress was pleasant, the eggs were average, and the restaurant was full of busy people. We shared a cup of black, coffee-like substance, and the first few times my client took a sip he managed to spill quite a bit of it. His trembling hand was just one of the symptoms of his burnout. That’s why we were meeting. He wanted to know if I could help him.

I picked up a fork and explained that as long as I used it for eating, the fork would last indefinitely. However, if I began to use it to drive nails or dig trenches, it would soon break. The key was to use it for what it was designed to do.

The look in his eyes told me he got it, but I still went on to say that people are like the fork. When they do what they are not designed to do, they eventually break.

Sure enough, his MAPP showed that he was designed to work on projects where there was a definite goal. He derived immense satisfaction from reaching goals. He also needed to work by himself about half the time. He was a scientist and enjoyed lab time, doing calculations, and interpreting test results.

What his job required on a day-to-day basis was another story. His primary task was to supervise a dozen people and maintain operations. No goals. No projects. No time alone. Consequently, his job was sucking the life out of him.

Much credit for his recovery goes to his boss who was willing to change the job content to fit the design of a valuable employee.

So how do you know if you, a loved one, or someone who reports to you is suffering from burnout? Here are the early warning signs.

1. Chronic fatigue - exhaustion, tiredness, a sense of being physically run down
2. Anger at those making demands
3. Self-criticism for putting up with the demands
4. Cynicism, negativity, and irritability
5. A sense of being besieged
6. Exploding easily at seemingly inconsequential things
7. Frequent headaches and gastrointestinal disturbances
8. Weight loss or gain
9. Sleeplessness and depression
10.Shortness of breath
11.Suspiciousness
12.Feelings of helplessness
13.Increased degree of risk taking

Fight burnout. Do what you were designed to do. If you (or you know someone who does) fit this description have him/her take the MAPP Assessment. Take a close look at what is said about you in your MAPP, and what you are naturally motivated toward with regard to your work. Sometimes a simple change at work can help you avoid many (if not all) of the early warning signs of Burnout.

Thank God I Found A Girl Like Her

After so much suffering, I've finally found unvarnished truth that I was all by myself for the longest time So cold inside And the hurt from the heart it would not subside. I felt like dying until a beautiful girl (it was you “Girl in the picture”) saved my life.

I was lost without you in my life. My every wish and every dream always about you, your face, your smile, and your personality always on my mind. Somehow became reality when you brought the sunlight completed my whole life. I'm overwhelmed with gratitude cause baby I'm so thankful i found you.


I would give you everything I have. There's nothing in this world I wouldn't do to ensure your happiness. I'll cherish every part of you, because without you beside me I can't survive to continues of my life. Please don't wanna try to leave me alone without you. If you're keeping me warm each and every night I'll be all right cause I need you in my life.

My baby I'm so thankful I found you………